Back in December 2019 when I started to settle in with AND for this year, I knew it would be a tough year for our country. I knew the non-dualism that AND represented – listening, accepting, abundance – would be helpful for me, not only to cope, but also (maybe, hopefully) to help. Sigh. I couldn’t have imagined in my craziest dreams where 2020 would take me/us. and 🙂 wow.
My small group has been reading Richard Rohr’s Falling Upward. That book was transformational for me when I read it last year. Revisiting all those highlighted pages with a group of thoughtful, insightful, and perceptive women has been a balm. and a lesson.
Last Friday, we discussed chapter 12, which includes a section titled “Both-And Thinking”. I quoted a few lines from that section in my OLW post last June (yep, hope and AND have been together for a while). As I re-read those pages last week, I realized I didn’t need to come up with anything new for this month. There is still so much room to work within the lessons from last year’s reading, this month’s re-read, and the news cycle of even the last 72 hours. These are the lines I took to heart on the re-read (all taken from pp 146-151 of the book linked above). The exercise of copying them here is helping me come up with a framework for how I’d like to be in these next few weeks (months?). and maybe they’ll resonate with you, too.
“You no longer need to divide the field of very moment between up and down, totally right or totally wrong, with me or against me. It just is. This calm allows you to confront what must be confronted with even greater clarity and incisiveness.”
“Dualistic thinking is the well-practiced pattern of knowing most things by comparison… It is the basic reason why the ‘stinking thinking’ of racism, sexism, classism, homophobia, religious imperialism, and prejudice of all kinds is so hard to overcome and has lasted so long…”
“…here is the normal sequencing of the dualistic mind: it compares, it competes, it conflicts, it conspires, it condemns, it cancels out any contrary evidence, and it then crucifies with impunity. You can call it the seven C’s of delusion, and the source of most violence, which is invariably sacralized as good and necessary to ‘make the world safe for democracy’ or to ‘save the souls for heaven.’ (this one rings especially true in the “pro-life” debate)
“…most people do not see things as they are; rather they see things as they are.”
It’s a different way of “seeing” for sure.
Marc reminded me this morning that today is the two-year anniversary of the Tree of Life tragedy. This blog post is a must-read. Ed Gaskin’s Ten Lessons are a beautiful example of what can happen when we allow ourselves to pursue non-dual thinking. Imagine the possibilities if even a few of us practiced this … just imagine.
AND also. PLEASE VOTE. please.
Thank you, Honoré, for hosting this monthly meet-up. Getting my thoughts together for this last Tuesday of the month is a game-changer!