I just finished reading a few of the OLW updates y’all shared today. This past month hasn’t been what any of us anticipated. And yet.
We’re opening our minds and hearts in new, often uncomfortable ways. And we ARE doing it. And most importantly, we ARE showing up for ourselves and each other with kindness, honesty, generosity, and love.
A few of us seem to be more comfortable showing these feelings to others than to ourselves … if that speaks to you, please consider this post your permission slip to … take care of YOU. It’s like the opposite of that video we’ve all seen about the value of social distancing (you know the one, where there’s the trail of matches and a fire, and one of the matches steps back from the trail and fire stops…), you not taking care of you means you can’t take care of the next person.
(…and now back to the post I had planned to write. well, sort of.)
Honestly, this word has been really hard for me to get my arms around. It’s more a state of mind for me – a way of approaching the world, if that makes sense – than a set of actions, habits or behaviors I can embrace. It’s those intentions I laid out (with painstaking care on the felt board 😉 ) back in January. It’s being open. present. hopeful (yes, even that).
It’s also about letting go and making room. for everything. and right now, that’s maybe the hardest thing ever.
I mentioned on one of our Zoom meet-ups (which by the way will be continuing on Sundays at 2pm ET – details tomorrow) that my Friday morning small group was reading Pema Chödrön’s When Things Fall Apart. The subtitle is “Heart Advice for Difficult Times”. Chödrön writes from a traditional Buddhist perspective, which put me off initially. Peer pressure can be a good thing and I was encouraged to just read it. Two chapters in and I am grateful for that push. With a hat tip to this wise woman, I leave you with these two thoughts:
“The most heartbreaking thing of all is how we cheat ourselves out of the present moment … life really is when we let things fall apart and let ourselves be nailed to the present moment.” (pp 4-5)
“The healing comes from letting there be room for all of this to happen: room for grief, for relief, for misery, for joy.” (p 8)
Stay safe and well, my friends.
And a big thank you to Honoré for bringing us together to share these important stories.