Many of y’all are sharing your 2020 words today, but I’m not quite ready to move on. A few weeks back I mentioned the 10 Things to Tell You podcast and the episode about reflecting back on 2019. In the show notes, Laura says “There are 10 questions in this episode meant to make you reflect upon on the last twelve months and get some clarity for what you want in the coming year. The prompts are a mix of light and deep, some to document a simple moment in time, others to help you grow.”
As I’ve been sitting with those questions and journaling responses, many of the things I documented in these dozen or so posts about Hope keep coming up. I’ve been doing this OLW thing for a while (maybe since 2008?) and every word makes an impact. Some, though, clearly more than others. I credit much of this year’s success to the simple process of these monthly check-ins (thank you Juliann and Honoré) and also … the right word at the right time. So – one last nod to 2019 and Hope:
1. What was the best part of the year?
* helping Sara get settled in Bristol
* settling into a “retired rhythm” with Marc
* finding my silver-haired self
* volunteering for Senior Services with my mom
2. What worked (and what didn’t)?
* morning quiet time for coffee, journaling, reading and centering prayer (I really notice the difference in my day when I skip this, or even cut it short)
* treadmill + The Balanced Life consistently
* eating breakfast (even a spoonful of peanut butter at 10am helps me eat better all day long)
and gah! so many nights eating dinner on the sofa (Marc)/counter (me) didn’t work at all!
3. What were the best conversations?
* every one I shared with my mom on our Canadian Adventure
* making a plan with my sister to read I Think You’re Wrong but I’m Listening in 2020
* every one I shared with Marc over Saturday night dinners
* honestly, every one I shared one on one with anyone – especially if we were face to face with a meal or coffee (and knitting) between us or side by side on walking trail
5. Who was the most influential to me?
* my Friday morning small group and our discussions about faith, modern life and everything else (although really, most things really do devolve into those first two – or maybe just one? – of those categories)
7. What are you leaving behind this year?
* the color beige
* clothes that don’t make me feel good
8. What behaviors to I want to change?
* spending more time on tomorrow or yesterday than today
* saying “no” to social engagements; I’m ready to put myself out there more to deepen relationships and make new friends
9. Where did my beliefs shift?
* I can make a difference by being kind, positive and thoughtful
10. Who do you want to be in the new year?
* a better wife, mother and friend
* more listening, less judging, more yes, more grace (for me and everyone else), more nuance
One of my projects for this next year is to find – and follow – a Looking Back routine. I think these questions would work really well over a shorter timeframe and I’m going to give this a try next month. Stay tuned!
As always, thank you for reading and for being such a supportive part of my story. And especially for today, best wishes for a safe and happy beginning to the 2020’s!